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by Tri-County Woman Staff Spare time is sort of like spare change - most people tend to use whatever extra there is the moment it becomes available. And if you or your mate have hectic schedules, it often gets squeezed in somewhere between the morning rush to get everyone out of the door and the scramble to get to bed at night. Your partner may only catch glimpses of you while you are hovering over the bathroom sink brushing your teeth or deep in slumber. Sure, quality is more important than quantity, but how does a busy woman find any time to be with her partner with all that goes on during the course of a day? Make It a Priority Most relationship experts would agree that the relationship between you and your significant other needs just as much nurturing as a career. The trouble is that we generally forget to pencil that nurturing in on our “to-do” lists. “We all have intimacy needs,” says sex educator Deb Levine, a relationship counselor with www.ThriveOnLine.com...

by Felicia Hodges We all know someone who knows someone who has been through a divorce. Add to that the number of people who lose a spouse to illness or accidents and it’s no surprise that there are an awful lot of folks out there who used to be some other person's spouse. If your Mr. Right had another Mrs. before you came along, some studies estimate that the divorce rates for your union are 70 percent or higher. What can you do to reduce your chances of being on the wrong side of that statistic? Barbara Kidney, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in New Windsor who specializes in family issues, says that although there are so many different reasons why a person is no longer with his or her former spouse, much of the relationship with the new partner will depend on how well s/he has come to terms with the end of the first marriage.      “It is an emotionally complex issue,” she says, “whether he was divorced or widowed or the relationship ended a ...